…when your oldest comes to you at the end of a long day and asks for a hug. You gladly wrap your arms around your newly adult child yet you sense the weight of the world on her shoulders. So you ask, “what’s wrong baby, are you okay?” and she mumbles “no” into your shoulder, then proceeds to cry while snuggling in deeper…and in that split second, instinctive mom moment you know where all the weight is coming from. You hear their fragile feelings through the unspoken quivers and between the muffled sobs. So you just hold them tight, let them cry those big tears…and tell them it is okay, everything will be alright and they got this. You say some things that hopefully sound wise to a newly turned 18 year old, and a few more things to make them laugh…then before you know it, the moment has passed like a late afternoon thunder cloud quickly rolling through. After all…it IS a BIG world out there and these realizations come in waves to our children as they mentally prepare themselves to embark in the unchartered waters of adult life. Yet, they do actually have this. We have given them the tools. They simply need our unconditional reassurance that they know who they are and they are enough!
As always…Go in love,