“Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be.”
Three years ago, on June 3rd…as I mourned the passing of my Uncle Bruce, my father’s younger and only brother…the realization hit me that both had passed prior to sixty and within 30 days of each other, albeit not the same year but still this had an impact on me.
The realization also came to me that in a relatively short time frame much of my precious Dutton family had been cut down. Now there weren’t many of us remaining from this immediate side of the family, and of the few who were, it was only Dutton women.
This resonated with me deeply, as it felt swift and was a blow to my spirit. My mind didn’t feel prepared to embrace this new normal.
It was then, that I ran across this quote, “Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be.” While, I don’t know who to credit for it, it spoke to me and got me thinking…
Generally life presents changes as a slow evolution that you barely recognize and so it is quite manageable. The subtleties of life are so minute, you barely recognize them at all until one day you have a moment of clarity and realize change has occurred. Only you are okay with it, because it slowly became incorporated into your world and you were able to digest it, little by little.
Then other times it is a broad sweeping motion and in one fell swoop your whole world and all you’ve ever known to be true is suddenly gone or at the very least drastically changed. You find yourself standing at the face of it, staring it down. Wondering to yourself, if in fact you can accept that life as you knew it will never be the same again?
Only…as this occurred, in the back of my heart, a little glimmer of hope shined through and said, “it may never be the same again…but maybe different can be as good and in time, while still very different, that good can become your new great.”
And so that is the thought I held tight to as I moved forward saying good bye to a glorious past where I was loved by two men, who as a small child were these larger then life hero’s to me. I moved forward with this new hope and acceptance in my heart, to benefit the future unknown years of my life.
It is never easy to find yourself at that precipice. As we age, life certainly changes, throws those expected and unexpected curve balls. We can either become stagnant, as we cling to the past, continuing to live in a land of memories that while safe, no longer serve us or we can move forward, honoring our memories, yet bravely and with intent, take these fresh and liberating steps into the beautiful and exciting unknown.
I hope as life changes and you find yourself in a place where you realize certain things will never go back to how they used to be, you too will be able to move forward with hope and acceptance in your heart for your very own beautiful and exciting unknown!
As always,Go in love,